As a new mom navigating the whirlwind of sleepless nights, endless diaper changes, and the constant worry if I’m doing things right, I quickly realized that having a support system was crucial. But where do you find your tribe when you’re stuck at home with a newborn? For me, the answer was Instagram.
How I created the MOM GROUP:
It all started one afternoon of a screaming newborn – while scrolling through Instagram, seeking some solace in the relatable posts of other new moms. I stumbled upon several accounts of moms proudly posting about their new bundles of joy. They were sharing their stories, their struggles, and their triumphs. That’s when it hit me: why not connect with these women and create a small community where we can compare notes and grow through this together?
Reaching Out and Forming the Group:
I began by reaching out to a few moms who seemed genuine and shared similar experiences. My message was simple and very informal: “hey! I am thinking about putting together a small moms group with women who have given birth in the last 3 months – do you want to be a part of that?” To my delight, the response was overwhelmingly positive.
In no time, our group grew to seven wonderful women, each with unique stories and backgrounds, yet bonded by the shared experience of motherhood. We created a private Instagram chat where we could freely share our daily ups and downs, seek advice, and offer support. NOTHING was off limits.
Growing Through Each Stage Together
1. **Newborn Phase: The Early Days**
– Those first few months were tough. Sharing our struggles, be it breastfeeding woes, sleep deprivation, or postpartum recovery, provided immense relief. We celebrated small victories like the first successful latch or the baby sleeping through the night (even if it was just once). And honestly, a lot of our conversations ended with, “What is even happening?” Because, seriously, WTF.
2. **Infancy: The Learning Curve**
– As our babies grew, so did our challenges. Introducing solids, dealing with separation anxiety, and figuring out nap schedules were all easier with the group’s collective wisdom. We exchanged tips, shared resources, and even swapped funny stories to lighten the mood.
3. **Toddlerhood: The WTF Phase**
– Now that our little ones are toddling around, the adventure has only just begun. From handling tantrums to encouraging early learning, our group has been a constant source of practical advice and emotional support. We share activity ideas, safety tips, and ways to keep our sanity intact.
Comparing Notes on Husbands:
Let’s not forget one of the most entertaining parts of our group – comparing notes on our husbands. There’s something oddly comforting about knowing you’re not the only one whose husband thinks “watching the baby” means playing video games while the baby naps. We share stories of the funny and sometimes frustrating things our partners do (or don’t do). Whether it’s their unique approach to changing diapers (why does the diaper always end up backwards?) or their perplexing inability to find anything in the fridge, these exchanges are always good for a laugh and a reminder that we’re all in this together.
The Leap from One to Two Babies
For some of us, the group has also been a lifeline as we transitioned from one baby to two. The chaos multiplied, and so did the need for support. Comparing notes on managing two little ones, sharing survival tips, and sometimes just venting about the craziness has been invaluable. We celebrate each other’s small wins, like successfully getting both kids to nap at the same time (a miracle akin to winning the lottery).
Diverse Parenting Styles and Mutual Respect
One of the most remarkable aspects of our group is the diversity in our parenting styles. Some of us are crunchy moms, embracing natural, organic approaches to parenting. Others are silky moms, preferring modern conveniences and mainstream methods. Despite our differences, the respect and understanding within our group are incredible. We don’t all do things the same way, but we value and support each other’s choices. This mutual respect has strengthened our bond and enriched our parenting experiences.
Beyond the Virtual: Real-Life Connections
Our bond extended beyond the digital world. We started organizing meet-ups, which quickly became the highlight of our social calendars. From playdates at local parks to moms’ nights out, these gatherings allowed us to connect on a deeper level. Seeing our kids interact and grow together has been incredibly rewarding.
The Impact on My Journey
Creating and being a part of this small mom group has been transformative for me. It’s more than just a support network; it’s a sisterhood. Knowing that I have a group of understanding and compassionate women to turn to has alleviated much of the anxiety and loneliness that can accompany new motherhood.
We’ve celebrated milestones together, both big and small. We’ve been there for each other during the tough times, offering words of encouragement and a listening ear. This group has not only helped me grow as a mom but also as an individual. I’ve learned so much from these amazing women, and I’ve gained confidence in my parenting journey.
Plus, you’ll have a group of moms who totally get it when you say, “What is even happening?” Because, seriously, WTF.
Simple GUIDE OF HOW I DID IT:
- Have a Baby: Get your own baby to kick off the group and connect with other new moms.
- Search for Members: Look for 3-8 people who have had a baby within the last 3 months.
- Reach Out: Contact them individually to invite them to join the group.
- Introduction Post: Request that each member posts an introduction message with a picture of their baby.
- Set Standards: Establish group guidelines emphasizing positivity, no judgment, and a safe space for sharing ideas and information.
- Set Standards: Establish group guidelines emphasizing positivity, no judgment, and a safe space for sharing ideas and information.
- Meet in Person: If possible, organize occasional meetups for in-person bonding and support.